Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace
Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help Christian women navigating đź’”estranged relationships with adult children and next generation family members.
You never thought you would be experiencing estrangement with a loved one and you are looking for support from someone who's been there. That's me.
Estrangement brings grief, guilt, shame, confusion and isolation. Women say they feel pressure to forgive or reconcile before they full understand what that means. And sometimes you may not be in a place mentally or spiritually to do that. I understand and felt similarly.
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My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years.
Growing up in a Christian family, I struggled with some of the decisions I made and even more so with family who judged and rejected me. I felt God was judging me and had also abandoned me. But it was during that estrangement that God met me where I was and overwhelmingly poured out his đź’–love and mercy and forgiveness.
The God I thought rejected me was standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around. Consequences from some of my decisions lingered but his ❤️love and forgiveness carried me through. It was a relationship God wanted with me. Not religion. It was life changing. And it's what brought about reconciliation and restoration of my family. Relationships today that are 💪stronger than ever before.
I learned that you can't force reconciliation. Any attempt to change another person is fruitless. The only control you and I have is ourselves and my podcast and coaching focus is on WHOLENESS - creating space to feel grief, discover clarity around responsibility, establish healthy boundaries and gain a renewed sense of self and purpose so that you can live grounded.
There are podcasts and coaching that focus on how to reconcile an estranged relationship. I cover some of that, but the primary focus and my passion is you. Helping you heal your heart and discovering who God says you are. Loved, adored and sought after. While others reject, God does not. Discover the inner peace that comes only from a relationship with him. That is the starting point.
I offer free no pressure, no obligation discovery calls to see if coaching is right for you. It's not a sales pitch. If that's something you seek, navigate to www.beckykolb.com/work-with-becky and let's have a conversation.
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Episodes
68 episodes
67: Mother's Day and Estrangement
Estrangement and Mother’s Day are two attributes that are at odds with one another. And when you are estranged from a son or daughter, it’s a trigger that can send you spiraling into a dark place. As I’ve talked with some mom’s they...
66: The Secret to Peace
The secret to peace is elusive to many women. Everyone wants it and often knows how to get it but are unwilling. Those that embrace this secret discover a deep and lasting peace even amid estrangement before relationships reconcile....
65: Reconciliation
Reconciliation is defined as the process of restoring friendly relations. It involves resolving disputes and balancing accounts. You’re thinking about your estranged loved one and that’s what this is about. However, it also is a principle in ba...
64: Letting Go of Grudges
Letting go of grudges is rarely easy and certainly nothing happens quickly for most people. Estranged relationships create a hotbed for growing grudges, and you nourish them when you replay and rehearse responses. Coaching wom...
63: The Bridge that Connects
There is a bridge that connects an unsaved heart and that’s the subject of today’s podcast episode. Women have asked me how to handle their unsaved kids especially when estranged. That’s a worthy question and one that resonates with...
62: The Sting of Rejection
The sting of rejection has been on my mind this week. For Christians, it’s Holy Week and I’ve been thinking about conversations I’ve had with women about estrangement. Moreover, the rejection these women discuss is typically a child...
61: Daughters-In-Law - Made for Connection
As children of God, we are made for connection. Connecting with another in meaningful relationship is one of the greatest joys of life. Family, friends, and co-workers. Neighbors, Church fellowship, and children’s sporting events are all places...
60: Anxiety - Waiting for the other Shoe to Drop
Anxiety and estrangement go hand in hand. As the days and months and years wear on with no relationship with your loved one, it’s hard to be anything but anxious. Will you ever see them again? Do they think of you or miss you? Do yo...
59: Faith and Estrangement
Estrangement due to one’s faith is on the rise given the world situation. No doubt you have witnessed the great divide in families over religion and politics. As a Christian woman, you are navigating an estranged relationship ...
58: 3 Steps to Manage Your Thoughts
Attempts at managing your thoughts can be an exercise in futility. Yet it’s essential to maintain healthy emotions when dealing with estranged relationships. If you’re like me, you’re well on the trip to nowhere before you discover ...
57: Grit and Grace - 2 Steps to Conquer Estrangement
Grit and Grace are two key components when you find yourself navigating an estranged relationship. Often these two attributes come later in the estrangement when you’ve suffered through many negative emotions.What if you could learn the ...
56: Healing Brokenness
Healing brokenness in an estranged relationship is a lengthy process. Today I’ll talk about three-steps that center around these attributes. Reconcile. Restore. Rebuild. You already know that reconciliation requires two partie...
55: Transformation and Estrangement
Transformation is a beautiful word. Changing something so that its appearance is completely different and noticeable. You may wonder what this has to be with estranged relationships but stay with me. It’s a foundational principle you won’t want...
54: Hope When Your Child Walks Away
It’s hard to have hope when your child walks away, but that is exactly where your strength lies. Without hope you’re lost. Thoughts go awry and that leads to a slippery slope you want to avoid. But it’s hard, right? When phone calls...
53: A Valentine's Message for the Estranged Heart
Today I have a Valentine’s Message for the Estranged Heart. If you’re listening, then it’s for you. Love is worth celebrating. And for those with an estranged relationship, it may be feelings of sadness as you reflect on love lost. ...
51: Estrangement - Reconnecting with God
Good morning, this podcast today is to introduce a slight shift in focus in my estrangement coaching podcast. There are many that deal with estranged relationships with an adult child. My experience certainly included an adult child...
50: Discover Peace in Estrangement
I’m one that never thought I could find peace in estrangement. Estranged relationships were on my mind constantly. Over the holidays I heard from an abundance of women who struggled with their emotions and self-worth because of estrangement wit...
49: How God Works for you in Estrangement
Do you wonder how God works for you in estrangement or whether he is even aware or cares? You feel like you are in the crucible with pressures mounting, emotions melting and triggers exploding. And you wonder how God could allow som...
48: Move on in Estrangement
Move on - how many times have you heard that phrase? Wouldn’t it be easy if we could just flip a switch and close the door on hurtful relationships? For so many, the estranged relationship involves a family member, and it isn’...
47: Impacts of Estrangement
Have you ever considered the impacts of estrangement in your life? Sure, you feel disappointed, resentful, angry even. You miss the person with whom you are estranged. Feeling deeply wounded, you struggle to find your footing ...
46: Surrender and Cooperation in Estrangement
Surrender and cooperation are two words that helped me discover the peace I was seeking as I experienced estrangement in a relationship. Admittedly, these are not two words we readily think about. Surrender conjures up the thought o...
45: Healing your Emotions
Healing your emotions is critical when you are estranged. And its hard work that will take time and commitment. Take a moment to think about the emotions you’ve experienced in the last few days when you think about the person ...
44: Why You're Struggling with Forgiveness
If you’re struggling with forgiveness, you aren’t alone. The truth is most everyone does. Oh, you may give lip service like I did and say you forgive, but the emotions linger. The pain comes and goes. You replay the hurt over and ov...
43: Learning to be Vulnerable in Estrangement
Learning to be vulnerable is daunting in the best of circumstances. But when you have estranged relationships, it can be downright paralyzing. Vulnerability is akin to giving someone access to your innermost thoughts and emoti...
